The Myth We All Grew Up With...
Criticism is For Your Own Good!

This is a belief that is so deeply embedded in our western culture that we never even think to question it. We learned it from our parents, who learned it from their parents and so on. Then, in order to get by in the world, we internalized their criticism and so we live with a stream of self-critical thoughts for most of our lifetime. Yet, in my work with hundreds of people, I have yet to find even one person who felt truly supported by judgment and criticism.

You may find yourself defending the value of criticism right now, and if so, I think a couple of distinctions will be helpful. When I talk about judgement and criticism, I mean the negative kind - the kind that comes out with an "edge" on it. The kind that always seems to have negative labels lurking nearby. For example, your mother may have criticized the state of your room, as a teenager, and even though she never said it, you could always feel the word "lazy" in the air. That's the kind I mean.

The second distinction about criticism has to do with the two types of motivation - "towards" and "away from". You can think of "towards" motivation as the reward in front of you and the energy that pulls you forward. "Away from" motivation is the kick in the butt coming from behind you that you'll do anything to avoid.

Criticism is definitely "away from" motivation and it's WAY less powerful than the "towards" kind.

So if you're thinking, "Ill never achieve anything without judgment and criticism", that tells me that you may not have experienced a lot of "towards" motivation like desire, encouragement and support.

In every single case, with every single person I've worked with, once they experienced real compassion for the things they used to judge and felt the power of real desire, support and encouragement, they were quite happy to give up self-judgment and criticism for good.

Think about this for a moment, when you were criticized or judged or nagged about anything, how motivated were you in that moment to make positive changes?......I thought so.

The one thing that is guaranteed to make your struggle with resistance and self-sabotage even harder is criticism.

That's why this approach is designed to wean you off judgment and criticism as motivating tools and help you replace them with true compassion, encouragement, and belief in yourself. You'll unlearn a lifetime of energy wasting, de-motivating habits through this process and discover a faster, gentler, sweeter way to your desires.

I really want to be done with the "Hard Way". So what now?

Take a moment and reflect on all the times you tried to get past your resistance by being hard on yourself and it just didn't work. In fact, you may have felt worse - more stressed and even less hopeful - about ever getting to where you really want to be. If you can think of more than 5 attempts that didn't work, you're probably ready to try something new.

There's really only one way to know if this is right for you, and that's to try a taste of how it works. That's why I created my 20-page E-book called "6 Keys to Ending Your Battle with Resistance and Allowing Yourself to Succeed." You'll discover a whole new way to look at your resistance that will allow you to stop judging it and bring a new compassion to your process. Plus you'll learn 2 of the core Meta-Skills that you can apply right away.

If you try it out and it's not what you need, then no harm done. However, if it resonates with you, you'll be well on your way to a whole new level of joy and ease in acheiving your desires and you can kiss the "hard way" good-bye!

To get your copy of the E-book, click here.

And of course, you're always welcome to call me or email any question or comment, at 902-640-2903 or by email to susan [at] theheartsvoice.com

I truly hope the resources of this site will help you on your way.
To the deepening journey!